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Welcoming Destruction into Your Life

 

Cut through the red tape.

Cut through the red tape.

How do you feel about what must be destroyed in your life?

This is a question posted by Danielle LaPorte for Desire Map followers. We are starting a book club. Lucky for me – blog post prompts weekly and plenty of people to discuss them with. This question has irked me because I feel inspired and excited about the destruction of several things or parts of my life, but I run into a problem. How do you fully embrace destruction and start acting? Meaning, how to I get down with destruction and start lighting shit on fire?

Sitting in my bed writing this, I look up and it’s glaringly obvious that clutter must be destroyed. There is a lot of crap in this room that needs to be eliminated. It’s like a slap in the face because I realize that I already have an answer to my question. So how do I really feel about what needs to be destroyed in my life? Annoyed. Cleaning house – it isn’t exactly number one on my list of inspiring activities.

These shoes: an inspiration or shameless creation?

These shoes: an inspiration or shameless creation?

So how can I use my excitement about destroying unnecessary crap in my life into action instead of stewing in annoyance? This is the dry part where you have to channel David Allen in order to Get Things Done. Time to enroll in Getting Shit Done (GSD) University (Fist PoundShot of Espresso). Put your big girl pants on (or take them off if that makes you more comfortable) and make a concrete list of action specific items only. Here is an example of a bad list:

  • Clean Room
  • Bike Box Stuff
  • Laundry
  • Clear Desk

Here is an example of a GSD List:

  • Fold clean laundry
  • Put shoes in closet
  • Vacuum rug
  • Sort bike box: throw out crap, organize box and put under bed
  • Sort through misc papers: recycle or file

Since these are all actionable items that are relevant to cleaning my room, I may make a GSD Clean Room Project List. It’s useful to make lists based on location, which includes an On the Go or Out and About list that you can reference while you are running errands. Once you begin breaking tasks down into smaller actionable items, you’ll be surprised at how much easier it might be to do them. When I go through this process it becomes glaringly obvious to me where my hang ups are. OH, that’s why I haven’t budged on cleaning my floor: I can’t vacuum until I buy new vacuum bags and I’m really dragging my feet on going to that particular store. No more excuses! Why am I resistant to that? Usually the best answer I can come up with is I don’t feel like it (lazy). Time to kick myself in the ass and get going.

Even if you knew, how would you get started?

Even if you knew, how would you get started?

Writing a GSD list helps us become clearer on what needs to be destroyed in our lives. Maybe laziness needs to be dealt with. Or procrastination. Or maybe it’s an opportunity to look at what your priorities are and honor them. Screw the vacuum bags! Sweep the rug. Your time is precious and you would rather spend time reading.

Based on my analysis of destroying clutter, I can see that I need to set aside some time to get started. I like the start small approach and remind myself often that giving a project 5 – 20 minutes a day will get me farther than thinking I have to do it all in one go. I have decided that I want to touch every item in my bedroom and ask if it still needs to be in here. If it doesn’t, I throw it out or give it away. This is just the beginning. Choose one thing and get started. It’s time to turn up the music and get your hands dirty.

What is one thing that needs to be destroyed in your life? How will you get started? Lara@LaraBuelow.com

Get Creative.

Get Creative.

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A New Framework for Goal Setting

Palace of Fine Arts: a great place to find inspiration.

Palace of Fine Arts: a great place to find inspiration.

I am in my first week of being 27 and several people have approached me asking about what goals I am setting for this new year. While I have plenty of things I would like to accomplish, I don’t think that 28X28 is the best structure for my next year of life. I am remembering a conversation with a good friend from a long time ago. I told him that I don’t really care much what happens in my life as long as I am happy. Whatever life throws my way, I hope I can come out the other side, find the important lessons and live a happy life. Even in the face of destruction and cruelty. If I experience the apocalypse, I still want to be capable of happiness.

So, dude that he is, my friend said that’s nice and all, but what do I have to DO in order to feel happy. I believe I fidgeted at the time and shifted around uncomfortably. Yes, this is a good approach, but dammit that means I have lots of unanswered questions. Little did I know at the time, this theory is in the same vein as Danielle LaPorte’s work. I want to FEEL X, so what do I have to DO in order to accomplish X? When I do Y, I feel X. This is exactly what Danielle LaPorte is getting at.

Moments to scribble down some ideas.

Moments to scribble down some ideas.

I am 4 days into 27 and I would like to outline a new framework for this year of life.

In order to set meaningful goals for myself, I want to make sure that I am pursuing activities that feed what I want to feel. It is much easier to feel fulfilled when you are clear on the intention behind a goal or activity. Rather than creating an arbitrary list of 28 things I would like to do before my next birthday, I would like to explore how to achieve my core desired feelings through activities each week or month. Since I am not quite sure how this process will unfold, I will have to tailor it as I go along.

For example: I have identified my 5 core desired feelings as: clear, connected, creative, relaxed, and powerful. I can choose to focus on one or two of those feelings in a particular week and do things that feed that feeling. Say I want to feel relaxed. It’s important to reflect on when I have felt relaxed in the past and recognize what makes me feel relaxed now. Then I make a list of things that induce relaxation for me: I feel relaxed when I get important items done early in the day, when I eat meals with friends, when I exercise and when I sleep enough. I feel relaxed when I am clear on my priorities so that I can give each task the time that it needs.

Taking time to write.

Taking time to write.

As mentioned in previous posts, I am going to read The Desire Map, and use the book to guide this process. I do have a growing list of goals and am always curious about what other people want to accomplish before they die. As I add things to my list, I ask myself why I want to do that particular thing and what feelings I believe I will get from achieving that task. Here are a few items I’ve come up with:

  1. Get ride of stuff: clarity, freedom, mobility, focus
  2. Learn Hootsuite: transferable skills, powerful, contribute, connection
  3. Surf vacation: relaxed, connection, powerful, mobile, focused
  4. Write/Blog: connection, contribute, powerful, relaxed, understanding, reflection, commitment
  5. Make another postcard: creative, connection, powerful, contribute

Using your core desired feelings as a way of setting goals is a great bullshit meter. Are you doing this for yourself or are you doing this because society tells you it’s cool? Are you creating your own path or are you drinking the Kool-Aid? Let’s get real. Happiness might be right around the corner if you check in with your motives.

Can you identify one of your core desired feelings? Is there a major life goal that you have? Shoot me an email and let me know what they are. Lara@LaraBuelow.com

Sunny morning bicycle rides to work make me feel grateful and relaxed.

Sunny morning bicycle rides to work make me feel grateful and relaxed.

27×27: The End

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Looking at my goal list for the past year, I am most proud of 2 things. The first is that I committed to blogging each of my goals and this exercise made me realize that something I really enjoy is the writing itself. It feels satisfying that I have embraced the writing process and stuck with it over the last twelve months. Especially to simply relish the act of writing, without judging the end product. The second thing I am proud of this year is that I made several huge changes in my life and am still working hard to create the life I want to live. If that’s too vague for you: I am so happy that I moved to San Francisco and have been able to find rewarding work. I am incredibly grateful to be at San Francisco CrossFit and Suppenküche, two companies where I’ve met some of the most amazing people in my life.

SFCF made some big changes this year, too: Moving indoors, out of the rain.

SFCF made some big changes this year, too: Moving indoors, out of the rain.

These two things also translate into what I am most grateful over the last year. I am grateful for all the love and support I got from my family and friends. I am grateful for the people who offered me work and flexibility in my schedule, coworkers who helped me out, and both the constructive and positive feedback I’ve received from people in different areas of my life. I also appreciate California Sunshine, the ability to take vacations in far off places, and the wild adventurous opportunities that present themselves to me.

On Monday, I will turn 27 and my 27×27 year will be complete. Friends have been asking what 28×28 will look like, but I can’t say it looks very appealing. It isn’t edgy enough. It’s putting too many items on a list, it’s too arbitrary. I need something with a bit more gusto. I want an divine list, not one that induces guilt over an unchecked box. I thought about beginning a 3×30 or 30×30 project, as it’s dawning on me that a decade benchmark is approaching. It’s still in the cards. However, in an effort to distance myself from numbers and quantifying everything, I would like to experiment with living the next year in a quality-inspired manner.

California Sunshine

California Sunshine

So I am crafting a plan for living my next year of life using the Desire Map. I will use my core desired feelings as my compass and my 12 commandments as my guiding constitution. THIS SOUNDS SO CORNY. Cue Phil Collins, because that’s my JAM. Hopefully over the next 12 months I will be able to communicate all of this in a way that sounds more hardcore and less “floofy”. That’s the (non) word that comes to mind. But right now it’s all I’ve got.

Fear Less. Love More.

Fear Less. Love More.

World Domination 2013

Sauvie Island, Portland, OR

Sauvie Island, Portland, OR

Though I haven’t written much, I’ve accomplished a ton in the past 6 weeks. Writing hasn’t fallen to the wayside for lack of inspiration or something to talk about. My mind feels like it might explode every time I look at the date. It’s July!? Where did the year go?

Rewind: last October I started Interchange, a counseling program that explores different philosophies and techniques in therapy. My original intention in starting this program was to figure out if I want to pursue psychology as a profession. Since I am a self-proclaimed self-help nerd, I knew I would get a lot out of the training based purely on my love for introspection and self analysis. I fancy myself a pretty good listener and I am proficient at speaking about my feelings. Interchange took me to the next level. I am proud to say that I have completed the ten month program and have received my certificate!

Celebrate good times with a pinata!

Reward yourself  with a pinata!

As far as my original intention, I am clear at the moment, that I have no interest in a masters in psychology. I am intrigued by life coaching, general counseling, and people who create personal brands. I love talking to people about their problems and their passions. Helping others to connect with their dreams and desires in order to live happier lives excites me. However, I am not in the space at the moment where I wish to make that my profession. Similar to my dream of starting a hostel, I do not rule this out as a career, but know that it is not for right now. Either way, completing Interchange was a longer term goal and I am proud to have achieved it!

WDS 2013!

WDS 2013!

Through Kate Courageous, a lovely woman who taught a marketing series at Interchange, I managed to get my hands on a ticket to the World Domination Summit. When I told people about this conference, many thought it had something to do with CrossFit, which I found very amusing. The World Domination Summit is actually a conference with people from professions across the board, coming together to talk about how to create change. It’s about refining your skills, unearthing your passion, and turning your dreams into a reality. It’s about focus and connection.

I traveled to Portland, stayed with a good friend, and listened to Chase Jarvis of Creative Live, Darren Rowse of ProBlogger, Danielle LaPorte, and Nancy Duarte, amongst others pour their hearts out. The whole conference was incredible! Chris Guillebeau did an incredible job orchestrating WDS. The events sounded insane. I missed a lot of it due to visiting with friends. I had a tricky time balancing the old with the new, and really needed some down time after mingling and listening to speakers from 8am till 4pm each day. I would love to attend again and make sure to take full advantage of each of the special events.

Love.

Love.

A specific goal that I have had for a long time is to attend a Kink.com Armory tour here in San Francisco. I finally managed to do this. A friend of mine was equally as excited about the idea and said “let’s go!” So we jumped online, set a date and bought tickets. Of course as I am waiting on the steps in front of the Armory, I run into some other friends who are also going on the tour. I love how small the world is. The armory is magnificent and kink.com has totally piqued my interest as far as its business model is concerned. We all know sex sells, but Kink seems to be operating as the change it would like to see in the world. 40% of it’s employees are women, while 60% of their directors are female. Apparently, this is unheard of in media companies. Let’s take a moment to ponder what this means as far as the production of porn. Women at Kink have significant influence over the type of porn being produced and are controlling how it is being put out into the world. This is a big deal. I like it.

June and July are demonstrating just how crazy busy life can get. New goal: simplify simplify simplify. I am ready to get back to some passions of mine that haven’t been nurtured in a while. This means drawing, letter writing, and reading. It also means hanging out without scheduled meetings on some afternoons and getting my ass in the ocean to try surfing again. 2013 is more than half finished. How are you going to spend the rest of the year?

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#1 Goal(s)

Buy yourself flowers. It's nice.

Buy yourself flowers. It’s nice.

I found a blog the other night that I find interesting. Hack the System with Maneesh Sethi. What a crazy dude. When you subscribe to his email list he asks that you write to him about your number one goal.  I found myself thinking that I should have a number one goal because I have so many of them. When I read his email requesting to hear what is it, I thought “Shit, man!” And then my brain came to a stuttering halt.

I have a lot of goals. Too many, actually. How do I know it’s too many? From Stevo, the sport psychologists perspective, if it feels like too many, it is.  Well, it feels like too many. From Byron Katie’s perspective, it’s not too many, it just IS and it’s only my thoughts in relation to the number of goals that is causing any stress. Byron Katie is the author of Loving What Is. She is the creator of “The Work”, which is a series of four questions about our thoughts and then a turn around that aims to transform our relationship to ourselves. Here is an example.

The Work on Having Too Many Goals.

Statement and/or judgments: I have too many goals.

Is that true?  No. (If no, you can move to #3)

Can I absolutely know that to be true? I can not know it to be 100% fact.

How do I react when I think that thought? How do I treat myself and/or others when I think that thought? Stressed out! I am irritable and frustrated. I hate on myself. I feel like I am scattered and unfocused. I feel like I can’t see progress clearly and that I am a failure. I get panicky and anxious.

Who would I be without that thought? Who would I be without believing that I have too many goals? I would feel peaceful and calm. Life would feel more harmonious and I would celebrate the small victories.

Turn it around: I do not have too many goals. I do not have enough goals. I have the right amount of goals. I have the perfect number of goals.

Workin hard. FSS.

Workin hard.

Perhaps this is another step in dismantling the 27 x 27. I am happy to have so many goals. They can just hang there in space, the letters typed neatly out on the page. The list will grow, wilt, and stagnate at times. I want to cultivate a compassionate relationship to the goal list. It is, afterall, my list of dreams. They each symbolize a process through which I get to know myself a little better and that lead me down my path a little further.

Looking at what I would like to focus on for April and reflecting on what I worked on in March, I am seeing that not much has changed. I am trying to start small and continue slowly. For March I had a fatty list: Interchange counseling sessions, write everyday, handstand practice, mobility, read, work on the Fire Starter Sessions, and attend the CrossFit certification course.

April

April

How did I do?

Interchange: I had a couple of Interchange sessions. I have surpassed my 20 hours of counseling now.

Write:  I have a check mark for everyday that I wrote on my calendar and made it a practice to write every morning. It increased the amount I post to my blog based on working with more material. This has been a very enjoyable process for me.

Handstands: I have had many 20 minute sessions in the park and practiced at CrossFit. I have seen a lot of improvement and have had a lot of fun!

Mobility: This is another item I have on the daily checklist. I have struggled with this because sometimes it is enjoyable and other times it is just a pain in the ass. Literally. But I am committed to working on my knee and the rest of my body.

Read: I have been reading more! I read the entire CrossFit training guide and I am in the process of finishing Loving What Is. I have also read a TON of blogs and information online. I also bought a GOOD magazine.

The Fire Starter Sessions (FSS): I love this book. Danielle LaPorte is awesome and the book is beautiful. Maria and I have been meeting about FSS and it is amazingly therapeutic and motivating. We’re lighting shit up!

CrossFit Certification: done and done! I attended the weekend course, which was great, and I past the test! BAM! PLUS, I applied for a job at San Francisco CrossFit and guess what?! I GOT THE JOB! The cert has already paid off.

Fire Starter Sessions

Fire Starter Sessions

Writing this has been so satisfying. Earlier I felt like the March list was way too long. However looking at all the progress that I have made for each item, I can see that I have actually been quite successful! WhatWhat!!! I think that one thing that would allow me to see progress more is by recording small measurable benchmarks or each. That would look like this:

Goal: Record daily check marks, record time spent on activity and other detailed notes.

I am halfway there. I have recorded most of this stuff, but I could get into the details if I wanted to see more numerical results.

So let’s circle back to the beginning. What is my #1 goal?

My number one  goal is to feel awesome. I’ve been able to pin-point four core feelings that are important to me and I want to connect to those feelings in all that I do. Those four core feelings are: Connection, Clarity, Creative, and Powerful. I don’t have to feel all four of the feelings all the time, but I want clarity in my activities because I think it makes for more harmonious living.

You can read about my twenty-seven #1 goals and how they tap into my core feelings here. If you think that this post is a bunch of bull and that my goal is way too vague, then here are some specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-sensitive (S.M.A.R.T.) goals to feast on:

Wild Success! Things that were not on the goal list but make me feel ON FIRE:

Thanks to Maneesh Sethi for pushing my thoughts about goals a little further.

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Dismantling the 27×27: Core Desired Feelings

“The time has come,” the Walrus said,
“To talk of many things:
Of shoes–and ships–and sealing-wax–
Of cabbages–and kings–
And why the sea is boiling hot–
And whether pigs have wings.”

Yes, let us talk of many things! I am beginning the process of dismantling my 27×27. It is indeed time to dissect them in a bit more detail. Keep in mind (I’m saying this to myself), that this a process, and an emerging theme  is to be patient, as well as forgiving with oneself. Ideally, with others, too. In an effort to dismantle this list, I’m going to explore each goal and reflect on which of my desired core feelings I hope to fulfill. First let me explain my core desired feelings. I did Danielle LaPorte’s worksheet from the Firestarter Sessions and currently have a list of 4 feelings that I seek in almost everything I do. They are as follows:

  1. Clarity: I want to feel confident and clear in all aspects of life.
  2. Connection: I want to feel connected in mind, body, and relationships (community).
  3. Creative: I want to think creatively, as well as engage in the act of creation.
  4. Powerful: I want to feel strong, influential, and as though I am utilizing my natural gifts.

OK, let’s tear it up.

1. Write my 12 commandments. Thanks to Gretchen Rubin and my good friend, Angie, I have 12 commandements that feel pretty amazing to me. Desired outcome: Clarity, Connection, Powerful. Wouldn’t mind framing these somewhere:

  1. Be Lara.
  2. Forgive, you do not have to forget.
  3. Embrace vulnerability.
  4. Express gratitude.
  5. Pursue opportunities wholeheartedly.
  6. Listen.
  7. Enjoy the process.
  8. Act how you want to feel.
  9. Be patient and compassionate.
  10. Be here now.
  11. If I can’t get out of it, I’ll get into it, and learn something.
  12. I am exactly where I need to be.

2. Take a vacation. I have not done this and it is definitely staying on the list. I read an article recently suggesting that it is best to plan vacations at the beginning of the year. That way you have something to look forward to and you make sure to set aside the time to make it happen. I am happy to say that I have a ticket to Washington booked for a friends wedding and am planning another friends bachelorette party in California. Desired outcome: Connection, Creative.

3. Express your feelings and record how it went. This is an effort to be honest and clear with myself and others. It’s a resolution that I am hoping will help me observe myself in difficult scenarios. I would like to have a deeper understanding of myself in conflict situations and of my reactions during sensitive conversations. I’ve only been partially successful. This is likely something that is going to come off my list and needs to be developed differently. I find I am fulfilling this is different ways, such as Interchange and writing regularly. Desired outcome: Clarity, Powerful, Connection.

4. Write 3 love letters. Valentine’s day has come and gone, thank God, but I would like to keep in the spirit of telling people that I love them and then elaborating on how incredibly awesome they are. This goal is going to be incorporated into my art projects and the desire to write more mail again. Desired outcome: Connection, Creative. When was the last time you write someone a love note? Go ahead, I dare you. Make it juicy. (#snailmail)

5. Read the Happiness Project. Done and done! Enjoyed it a lot! Desired outcome: Creative.

6. Job Applications/Interviews/New Work. Accomplished x3! Thanks to Debbie Steingesser and my guardian angel Maree, I am living and working in San Francisco. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

7. Interchange. I have attended every weekend class so far, the program ends in June. Desired outcome: Clarity, Powerful, Connection

8. Attend Bells and Whistles at 222 Hyde. Tutu Tuesdays at 222 Hyde anyone? I hear these kids are so hot right now! Desired outcome: Connection, Creative.

9. Move. Did this twice. Check and check. Desired outcome: Connection.

10. Say “Yes” Day. I don’t think I need this. I’m such a “Yay”-sayer, out there, battling Nay-sayers all day long. What the hell is a say “yes” day anyway? I think I already hate this. Desired outcome: Creative.

11. Ride the 7 Hells, I mean Hills of SF. Angie and I were going to do this, I believe we ended up drinking and doing a joy-ride instead. There’s always next year! Desired outcome: Powerful.

12. Go to a Yoga class. After not doing any yoga for a full year, I finally did a 2 week intensive with an intro pass to Fluid Yoga in the Inner Sunset. Love it. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

13. Make mail art. I already organized and hosted a mail art party and participated in the Snail Mail My Email Project. Always in the back of my mind, this goal is more based on documenting the process or finished project. Desired outcome: Connection, Creative.

14. Do 5 strict pull-ups. Well, shit. I guess I will have to count how many I can do already. I believe it’s 3. I’ve fallen in love with kipping pull-ups, but the goal is to do 5 strict. Hmm. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

15. Do 20 consecutive awesome push-ups. Do we sense a theme here? I can’t remember if I was just trying to come up with ideas for 27 goals or what. I actually think that these two goals are important, basic movements that will be helpful in my breakdancing career. (!!) Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

16. Plan a bike trip. This can be anything from a one-nighter to something epic. We will see. This goal goes arm-in-arm with the vacation goal. It’s important for me to have some adventure in my life, get outside, get dirty, get hungry, and see the world. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

17. Books. I want to read everything! I am not so stoked on book reviews, but I like to keep a running book list of things that I have read. I’m trying to get this online. It’s nice to be able to reflect on it. Desired outcome: Connection, Creative, Powerful.

18. Art project. I would like to complete a painting or a drawing. I would like to incorporate this with mail art. Sometimes it seems like too much pressure and then it isn’t any fun anymore. I remember talking to Angie about her goals. We came to the conclusion that if the goals aren’t fun or if we simply weren’t excited by them, then scratch that m-thr-f*cker off. Replace it with something awesome. Desired outcome: Connection, Creative.

19. Purge. Having moved twice, I have done a couple of rounds of getting rid of shit. There is so much more to be done. I’ve been throwing out old clothes, recycling crap papers, and generally trying to touch everything that I own and ask myself “do I need this?” Desired outcome: Clarity.

20. CrossFit and Mobility Gear. I have CrossFit Reebok Nano shoes, my new favs! I have also purchased 2 Voodoo Floss Bands, and some lacrosse balls. Next on the list? ROLLERS. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

21. A new ritual or tradition. I am borrowing this one from other people. I’m not sure how I feel about it. It may not stick with me. This year I ran five miles on a beach in Oregon and swam in the ocean on my birthday. I would like to make it tradition to do some physical activity in a beautiful place and then go swimming on September 30th every year. Desired outcome: Connection.

22. Fix my knee. One of the main motivators for me to finally take CrossFit basics last year in February was because I screwed up my knee a bit training for a marathon. I am not experiencing any pain, but there is plenty of clicking that drives me nuts. Good thing I have the SFCF crew and my mobility tools. Desired outcome: Powerful, Connection.

23. Trained someone at work. I recently helped a friend get a job at Suppenkueche. Then I got to train her! I was honored that my boss asked me to. It was a major ego boost and has made me much more confident in my job and my ability to contribute to our team. Desired outcome: Connection, Powerful.

24. Blog my 27×27. That means at least 27 blog posts by my birthday. This is because I love working on goal setting and I love writing about it. It is becoming increasingly evident how important writing is to me and how much I value it as a tool. I do not think of myself as a strong writer, but I love the process and I love it as a form of communication. I think it’s beautiful and powerful. I figure the only way I’ll ever be even half decent is if I practice. A lot. So here I am. In the throes of my 14 day writing challenge. Desired outcome: Clarity, Connection, Creative, and Powerful.

25-27 are either none of your business or I’m simply too embarrassed and self conscious to write about them publicly at this time. In an effort to get completely out of my comfort zone this year, I am hoping that I will get drunk some night and post them regardless. Listening to BlogcastFM and attending Interchange, both lead me to think that perhaps facing those fears and sitting with intense discomfort is often the greatest learning experience you can have.

Here are a few other things that I am working on that will easily replace some of the things above (or simply be added to the list): CrossFit Open Games, CrossFit Level 1 Certification, eat a new flavor of ice cream, eat Paleo (LOVE that I thoughts of this after Ice Cream,HA!), frame some photos, fix my bicycle, watch a million mobility videos, listen to all 200 interviews on BlogcastFM, find a mentor, finish Live Your Legend packet, complete Firestarter Sessions, tour the Armory (kink.com), enjoy a classy beverage in the new kink.com bar, and get a massage.

In writing all of this, I find myself asking “what’s the point?” So I am looking up the word dismantle and here is the definition I found: to take to pieces; also: to destroy the integrity or functioning of, to strip of dress or covering.

After reading the definition,I feel like I am scrambling to piece my 27 goals together and have them all fit neatly into a box. Like a sweet package, little nugget goals. In order to push the dismantling further along I have to ask: what is the original function of my 27×27? The list is based purely on my age, so the number is a bit arbitrary. It is supposed to be a fun way for me to think of concrete things I would like to do and resolutions or habits that I would like to develop in my life. I would like to be an active and present participant in my life, I’m not interested in being passive or denying personal responsibility during my short time on Earth.

Does dismantling my list mean blowing it to smithereens? Does it mean destroying the structure? I want to strip this list naked and look at it differently. I think this means getting rid of the numbering, deciphering between goals and resolutions, and then organizing them into a sequential format where they can build on each other. Whew, this is making me sweat.

Stevo and I have discussed arranging goals into buckets. That’s cool, I like buckets. That’s what I am attempting to do with the desired outcomes, connecting each goal to a desired core feeling. This allows me to strip the numbering from the 27×27 and arrange them into categories of things that I would like to achieve in my life. How can I push this further?

“O Oysters,” said the Carpenter,
“You’ve had a pleasant run!
Shall we be trotting home again?’
But answer came there none–
And this was scarcely odd, because
They’d eaten every one.